Hey Friends, I hope everyone is doing
well and is safe and staying healthy. I wanted to reach out
regarding some of the struggles I have seen during the “Stay at
Home” Order on social media. So let’s talk about it…
Lack of Motivation –
Well what is motivation?
Motivation is defined as “The general desire or willingness of
someone to do something”.
Where does it come from?
Well the simple answer is, your brain. The complex answer is our
emotional response to the information our brain is processing/telling
us. Studies show that if there is a reward attached to the
information, this makes it more desirable and our response is to work
harder to complete whatever tasks are necessary to achieve the goal
or reward. Different things motivate us based on what our different
desires are. Whether you realize it or not though, this science is
applicable for big things like personal growth, or setting personal
goals and for simpler tasks such as completing household chores or
getting dressed in the morning.
Let me give you an
example. Let’s say you hate doing the dishes. Can’t stand it. It
drives you nuts. You have a tendency to let the dishes pile up in
the sink because your emotional response to the dishes is negative.
Doing dishes does not motivate you. And then it gets worse, because
you let them pile up for days until you have no choice but to do them
because you can’t even get to the faucet anymore. So finally you
have to do the dishes and every second of it feels miserable because
you are focused on all the negative things that come with the task at
this point; Things like the fact you have to scrub the old crusty
food off the dishes because they sat there for so long. Some of them
might be smelly. Your hands might get dry or rough because it took
so long to complete the mountain of dish cleaning.
So now let’s look at it
from a different perspective. What could motivate you to do the
dishes? Well honestly it could be he very same things that make you
hate completing the task. Think about it…If you wash them as you
go, it doesn’t take nearly as long. The sink is always empty and
clean, your hands won’t get as dried out, because they won’t be
sitting in the soapy water as long, the food won’t be all crusted on
the plates from days of sitting there, there won’t be a funky odor
coming off them. So by focusing on the things you will be avoiding
by doing them timely, completing the task might become more desirable
and make you more motivated to just do the damn dishes.
So now that we have
covered an example, let’s look at how Lack of Motivation is effecting
people during the “Stay at Home” Order.
So during the “Stay at
Home” Order there are a few consistencies that are really causing a
lack of motivation across the board… 1) We can’t go anywhere
really. The freedom we had to explore, shop, go out to eat, enjoy
things like movies and concerts and the beach are just non-existent.
2) We have to practice Social Distancing. We can’t enjoy the company
of family and friends, which is especially hard during major
holidays like Easter, or for those celebrating birthdays.
Let’s look at it from
the negative first just as we did the dish example. If you can’t go
anywhere what’s the point in getting up let alone taking a shower and
getting dressed? If you can’t see your family or friends what’s the
point of taking care of yourself? No one will notice if you’ve been
sitting around in your pajamas for four days watching Netflix and
eating frozen pizza and ice cream out of the carton, right?
Now ask yourself… “What
in the actual heck am I doing to myself!?”
Now is one of the most
important times to stay motivated for yourself! So take a deep
breath and let’s talk about how you’re going to do this…
Step One: When you wake
up in the morning, take a god damn shower and get dressed as if you
are going somewhere. Whether its casual clothes, or gym clothes, or
work clothes, get your butt up, get showered and get dressed.
Step Two: Make a schedule
for yourself. BE ACCOUNTABLE. Make a list of daily tasks that you
are going to complete each day. (This can include anything from work
(as many are working from home), house projects, cleaning, reading a
book, personal growth and development, home workouts, taking a walk,
hitting a certain number of steps, etc.) Write out the list, and
cross off the tasks as you complete them. This has been shown to
boost motivation and productivity.
Step Three: Plan out
your meals and snacks!!! Stop hanging out in the kitchen all day,
and plan out what your meals and snacks are as you would on a normal
day. Another helpful tip here – don’t buy a whole bunch of junk
food. Have healthy snacks available. (Side note: If you have a
sweet tooth, check out my recipes tab for some healthier baked
options that will satisfy your sweet tooth but still be on the
Step Four: Make sure you
are drinking enough water! Even mild dehydration can make us tired or
think we are hungry when we really are not. Keep track of how much
water you’re consuming each day. (Side note: I start my day every
morning with at least 8 ounces of water before I have anything else,
including my coffee)
Step Five: Make sure you’re getting some exercise. Whether it is home workouts, or walking around the block, you should be doing something to stay active.
Step Six: Be Productive!
Fill your time with tasks that you can feel good about. Whether it’s
cleaning out your old closet space of clutter, or learning a new
skill, or completing a house project, whatever it is be productive
with your time! Make sure to have tasks on your schedule that are
realistic and achievable.
Side note: If you choose
tasks for your daily checklist that take longer than one day, then
break it up into smaller pieces for several days. So for example if
it’s taking an online class or reading a book, maybe have on your
check list 30 min of reading each day. Or if it was cleaning out the
basement, maybe break that up into 4 or 6 parts and say like day one
complete far right corner, day two complete the far left corner, and
so on and so fourth. That way each day you are checking off the
completion of whatever portion of the goals you are working towards.
I hope you guys have
found this helpful. Stay tuned for my next few posts which will
cover topics such as:
- how to have a
work/life balance when you work from home
- working out from
- how to set goals